Fellas: Forget a wingman – try a PIVOT

I am sure you have heard of a wingman…but have you ever heard of a pivot?

A few weeks ago, my guy friends introduced me to a new term: PIVOT. We were all out at a bar when my single guy friends started eyeing up some ladies. I told them I was worried I was killing their game because other women might think we were dating. However, they told me I wasn’t hindering their game – I was helping it. How? What? Why? I was confused until they told me about pivots.

What does it mean?
A pivot is basically the female version of a wingman.

How does it work?
A single guy employs the help of one (or more) of his female friends (who is just that – a FRIEND) to act as his pivot. The pivot helps the single guy out by making him seem more appealing, attractive, and desirable to other women. A good pivot will laugh at all of the guy’s jokes (even bad ones), maybe touch or rub their arm, etc. Maybe it taps into a woman’s competitive nature because ladies will take notice.

A more confident pivot can also approach a lady (we will call her the “target” in this scenario) that the single guy is crushing on and try to befriend her. Once the first part of the mission is a success and the pivot ย and target are friends, the pivot will introduce the target to the single guy, helping ease them into conversation. It makes the single guy AND the target more comfortable as the target will feel less like she is being hit on.ย 

There you have it, folks – A pivot!

Side note: In doing research, I found a business based in Indianapolis called Miss Pivot, where single men can HIRE women to be their pivots in order to get more dates! I wonder if it’s working…

I want to hear from you: Have you heard of a pivot? If so, have you acted as a pivot?

Happy macking,

Tosha – The Princess

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22 Comments on “Fellas: Forget a wingman – try a PIVOT”

  1. August 15, 2012 at 3:30 pm #

    That is fascinating! It makes sense. Why haven’t I heard about this?!

  2. September 5, 2012 at 11:59 pm #

    Excellent! I know from experience that a man being seen talking to attractive women makes other women take notice. I think it brings out women’s competitive nature. At any rate, it gives the man a head start. I think I shall reference this blog entry in one of mine ๐Ÿ™‚

    • September 6, 2012 at 12:31 pm #

      “It gives the man a head start” – I like that! Can’t wait to read your post! Let us know when it is up and we will promote it ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for reading and commenting!

      • September 10, 2012 at 2:12 am #

        Thanks Tosha! My post referencing your post is up today.

  3. September 6, 2012 at 10:30 am #

    Ha! Does the “pivot” replace babies and cute little puppies?? Perhaps we have been a “pivot” for our guy friends and didn’t even KNOW that we were. Hmmm…

    • September 6, 2012 at 12:31 pm #

      I think cute puppies and babies will win out in every scenario ๐Ÿ˜‰

  4. September 7, 2012 at 6:31 am #

    thanks for the woman’s view on things. It helps us guys out, even us seniors.

  5. October 4, 2012 at 7:39 pm #

    being a paid pivot actually sounds like a great job!

  6. October 9, 2012 at 1:07 pm #

    Interesting, but these days I’m very happy to stand – or fall – on my own account. If someone likes me, they like me, and if not, well – I’d rather not have a witness, not least a lady friend. Interesting article though.

  7. October 14, 2012 at 2:48 pm #

    I’ve never heard of a Pivot, but have always considered myself my guy friends’ Wing Man. So cool to know I’m actually a Pivot. I learned something new today.

    • October 17, 2012 at 11:15 am #

      A pivot sounds so much cooler, right?!

      • October 17, 2012 at 2:44 pm #

        it really does. -Love it

  8. frankdiluzio
    October 16, 2012 at 6:11 pm #

    I think this is really funny and clever. I would trust a pivot on getting the job done than a wingman haha.

    • October 17, 2012 at 9:58 am #

      Thanks for reading! And at least you know a pivot wouldn’t steal the woman you’re eyeing up like a wingman could ๐Ÿ˜‰

      • frankdiluzio
        October 17, 2012 at 2:25 pm #

        That’s exactly what I thought! =P

  9. October 18, 2012 at 5:44 pm #

    So much awesome.

  10. October 21, 2012 at 6:37 am #

    While I have never heard the term Pivot before, I do have a handful of woman wingmen, and the help works both ways. Guys like to see that a gal is approachable, and women feel safe knowing that a guy isn’t a total creep since other women seem to like him and choose to be around him. Also, it helps give a good point of view that you may not realize on your own; case in point, one of my pivots had a guy slide up next to her and get her number one night at our bar hangout, then later on he texted her and said if she needed someone to escort her around to an event they had discussed, he would be glad to. She at first was put off, saying he was far too nice and polite about it (she tends to like a little bad boy in her men). I told her that he was pretty ballsy in talking to her in the first place, and that he may seem nice, but that so did I when we first became friends. She ended up giving him a chance, and they are still dating 3 months later. Either way, pivots and wingmen are pretty much essential in the dating game nowadays, not to mention it helps having someone that doesn’t mind just being there to help when bad situations arise. If you haven’t tried it yet, I fully recommend it!


  11. October 31, 2012 at 4:59 pm #

    Who’d have thought I’d start the day learning the proper term for a female wingman ;P
    Thanks girls! I had a good read =)

  12. December 28, 2012 at 1:55 am #

    Very good information. Lucky me I recently found your website by accident (stumbleupon).
    I’ve book-marked it for later!


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